Thinking of you Jonathan and your dear loving Family  / Teri Drebit (Angel Mom Of Jaime)

I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious son Jonathan.  I just wish there were some words I could say to ease your pain.  I also lost my daughter Jaime and her fiancee in a house fire in his parents home.  Jaime fell from a third story window sustaining massive head injuries.  She was airlifted to a trauma center where she passed three hours later, and was never conscious.  Her fiancee never got out of the house, although his parents did.  Jaime had only been in the house for about 40 minutes.  Please know you and your Family are in my thoughts and prayers.

God Bless
Teri
(Proud Mother of Jaime)

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LOVEEEEEEEEEEE YOU!  / Holly's Mom, Shei
JUST CHECKING IN MOM.  I LOVE THE CHANGES, BLESS YOUR HEART, YOUR DOING A WONDERFUL JOB HERE, MAYBE U COULD HELP ME W/HOLS SOME TIME.  KIDS WERE JUST REALLY IN MY THOUGHTS TODAY AND WANTED TO BE HERE.  *HUGS* Close

for you  / Andre Christopher Trevizo's (nephew)
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I understand yout pain  / Brenda-mom To Angel Christopher Proctor (passerby)
Marcia,I am so sorry for the loss of your son but know that you are not alone. we are all here for you. I too felt that when I lost my son I could not go on but I had to because of his two younger sisters and the rest of my family. I realized that through me living my son would never really die.My son had many medical problems and so we never exspected him to be an adult but when we lost him on the day he had laughed all day it came as a shock. we will never really know what happined other than he probably just grew tired and decided to go home.Your son heard what you were telling him that day and like my chris he made the decision for you so that you would not have to. that was his last act of love he could have givin you. you will be in my thoughts and prayers every day. I hope Johnathan looked up my christopher and they are friends now. Close

Most Sacred Heart of Jesus we place our trust in Thee  / Wilma White (Blake Fosters Grandmother )
THANK YOU SOOO MUCH FOR VISITING BLAKE FOSTERS' SITE:

Death does not separate us from those we love. It deepens our union with God and with each other. God picks the rose that is
still in bloom even tho we think he picked it too soon. God knows the perfect time to gather flowers from the ground. He places the loved ones that we treasure in his heavenly garden with all the beautiful flowerful angels he has found. 

We never got to see our Blake again, as his body was too mangled, etc. and that along with him being MY SONS' ONLY CHILD & BEST FRIEND has been a great agony, but we are slowly surviving,
because as adopted members of God's family, we become heirs of heaven and God shares His very life with us, Life that is eternal and transcends all time and space. When we reflect on this great truth, we can come to realize that those we love have not been separated from us;Whether here on earth or in the heavenly kingdom, it is in this divine love that we are truly united, not only to God, but to each other.  We all feel that we are distant from those we love, but now, we are able to love them and they us with a deeper love, a fuller love, a love that is enriched by God's own love. When your day seems dark and dreary and self-pity runs its course, all we have to do is be humble and use that mighty powerful, prayerful, force and God will take away some of the rain and let the sunshine in; if we just let Him in and look around you'll see all the beautiful blessings he has given us. 
We are only here for a day at a time, and sometimes we don't even get a day, so Trust in God and continue to Pray and you will find contenment at the end of your day. Johnathan will smile with you each day knowing that you have found your way.

I am so sorry for your loss, and you are correct, NO-ONE can know your pain, because each one of us has our own way of loving and caring and soo many to love and pray for AND SOoo MUCH WE WANT FOR EACH OF OUR LOVED ONES. 

I pray that you and your family and friends will find contenment at the end of each day and before our time is through, find joy once again renewed, for I know that is what Jonathan would want you to do.   

    GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU TODAY, TOMORROW AND ALWAYS.
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hugs, they just don't understand :((  / Hollys Mom, SHei
Right u are mom.  *hugs* woman.  Every loss hurts, but each loss holds it's own pain; and that pain is the worst for those that feel it, but when ur left w/no anwers, why did they go that way, why were they where they were that it had to happen to this bright, beautiful child, with so much to live for....
why MY child and not one of those evil people that rape and kill? bin laden even??? why is he enabled, bringing so many of our children to deaths door :(( okay, can't take them, take ME!!! i'd of traded any day, Hols just had so much going for her, eighteen and the world at her feet, so many doors to go thru.
Like Jonathan, Hollys just went, no drugs/no alcohol... just a stupid accident. They say, accidents just happen, deal with it. (that's undressed quote, everybody covers it w/nice-ites) There is NO comfort in that.  Okay, the other thing they say is: God needed your child, it was their TIME.  
ya, uh huh, that really helps... the big man needs my kid more than i do???
i don't know, all i know is it just hurts so much, like u said, moms grieve forever.  that child she held under her heart... there just is no release from this pain. 
sure.  u learn to work around it, get thru your days, but it still punchs you in the heart when you think of them. And some days u just can't quit thinking about them, EVERY THING reminds you of them.
why can people not understand, moms by the way of things have dealt with all the same loses everyone else has, grparents, aunts, parents, even spouses... and NONE compare, in no way is it the same as losing your child.  Not to say that i don't feel for anyone that hurts after a loss, and i really do'nt want them to know this pain, but it'd sure be nice if people understood better.
i duno mom, man this is hard to do, but i'm glad i have you to help me thru this, while i am MORE sorry than you'd believe,  that you know this pain.
JONATHAN AND HOLLY, RIP
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MOTHER'S GRIEVE TILL WE DIE  / MOM (MOM)

"We grieve our parents for a while because they are a link to our past, but we expect them to die. We will grieve our husbands until we are in the arms of another,but? A Mother will grieve her child till the day she DIES."

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To Amanda  / Holly's Mom
*hugs* sis, did mom tell u she adopted me??? got'a luv her  : )  I wanted to say how much i liked your poem to Jonathan.  Good job, u write well.  I can feel it comes from the heart and i'm sure ur heart hurts alot missing Johathan, my Ann is 17 and i wish u guys could get together and talk some time, she knows exactly how u feel with holly being up there w/johathan.  she is like u, she says she's okay, but nightmares and headaches say she's not.
Biggest of healing hugs for your heart girlie, i sincerely wish u did not have to be going thru this; as it's already a given though, u keep writing! u do a wonderful job of expressing yourself and you touch everyone who reads. 
Angels on your shoulder-- and in any car u ride in!
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It happened in the dead of night  / Amanda Arreola (Sister)

It happened in the dead of night
On a day that seemed so right
The party was almost through
But the night has just begun

I had mixed emotions all day
Why did I feel sad and happy
I did not know why
But I knew it was a beautiful day

So my aunt was happy
For it was her wedding day
But that night was a  horride one
For death was  in the air

We got the call that was never expected
On the treacherous nigh
Wishing it would all endsoon
Hoping we would go home happy

The hospital was a cold,lonely place
Full of sadness in the trama room
The accident that would change everything
15 to 20 minutes left would his time expire

Then the next morning arrived
Happy he was still alive
Then came six and he was gone 
The room filled with pain and sarrow

Will this pain be over soon
Only thing to do was go on
It is not so easy
This pain will live on


In loving memory of my big brother Jonathan J Arreola that is miss so much and will never be forgoten with a big void in our lives. Love you so much Jonathan!4/27/06 by Amanda

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EASTER / ARREOLA MARCIA (MOM)

JOHNNY I know your in heaven celebrating with God but we're down here missing  you very  much. Know my heart is missing a big piece that won't be whole until the day we are together again. Please ask God to help with this pain, tell him to let you come and visit me in my dreams.  I had a very  sad day without you. I remember you could not wait to come and get your Easter basket no matter how old you were. You were a kid at heart  and know that you will be forever young in my heart till the day we meet again. Boy, I miss you very much, love you more and so so so much. Your only mom with a broken heart. Happy Easter Jonathan.

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Selcome My son in heaven  / Angie Trevizo (Vistor)
Dear Johnathan,  I recently met your mom and sister and your mom misses you so much.  Comfort her and help her through all the days of her life.  I just lost my boy and I ask you to greet him and show him around heaven.  The pain for us on earth is so great and as a mother our hearts are heavy and a piece of us dies. Maybe I am selfish in that way but I know you boys are in a place that no words can describe.  I ask that you help set the table with Chris and Demeitrius and welcome your mom's and loved ones as someday we will be together.  Our work here on earth is not done.  Eternal rest unto you three boys. Close

Remember me...........  / Angelina Varela (Friend)
It's been two years and I still can't belive your gone.  Time has gone by too fast.  I think of you every now and then and still feel a little bit of pain but then I remind myself that you are still in my heart forever. I know things upstairs must be great and I am happy that you are in a safer and better place. On this aniversary of yours may the angels wrap thier wings around you and hold you close to their hearts as we would have on this day if you were still here. I miss you Jhonny but I know that your in good hands now. I love you always.
                                                  Your Friend,
                                                                Angelina
Never forget me friend.
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MISSING YOU JOHNNY  / MOM (MOM)

Johnny there is so many things that I have to say to you but, there is so many that I just can't put it all together, but, I will try.I need you to ask God why he makes us parents go through this pain. This the hardest trial he could ever give us as human beings. This is such a terrible pain, to have my heart have such a big hole that nothing could fill it. How could he make us go through this pain wen we could never be the people that we were and how unfair to your sisters that I cant be the mother that I was. I just don't have the motivation or the energy because all that is lost in this pain. How about all those that I love and that love me too. I'm not Marcia anymore I don't even know who I am anymore most of the time. Why did God give you to me if he was going to take you so soon? I miss you so much son, I love you so so much, you need to ask God to help me to try to make some changes in the future so that I can be okay. Close

Those who grieve....  / Diane Cassidy- Angel Mom-Katie
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Happy Birthday  / Angelina Varela (Friend)
Happy birthday Jhonny I didn't forget! You always remembered mine. I miss you and I pray for you everyday. Thanks for your friendship. You will never be forgotten. Close

HAPPY BIRTHDAY JONATHAN!!!  / Holly's Mom, Shei. (friend of his moms. )
mom, sending prayers up for God to surround u w/His loving light to get u thru this day.  know holly is helping jonathan celebrate, just like i'm sure jonathan was w/hols on hers couple weeks ago!  their imps girl and i'm sure they're having fun, don't worry about him... keep ur strength for you, hugs mom, i know u have good attitude, but days like today just really hurt, we remember the day they were born and contemplate what they're missing.  i'm sure it's nothing compared to the greatness they have around them there. they are happy mom, believe that.  it's just us here, doing the poor me stuff, but we both know how much we miss them-- so just can't be helped.
i tried to do candle twice, just brought me to page won't come up, and doesn't show i put message on :((  jonathan is probly laughing at me, i KNOW holly is <g>  love ya mom, know my heart breaks for u today and ur in my prayers.
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Jonathan / Mom (mom)

LORD, I WANTED TO HOLD MY SON IN MY LAP AND TELL HIM ABOUT YOU, BUT SINCE I DIDN'T GET THE CHANCE, WILL YOU HOLD HIM IN YOUR LAP AND TELL HIM ABOUT ME?

To All Parents
by Edgar Guest

"I'll lend you for a little time a child of mine," He said.
"For you to love the while he lives and mourn when he is dead,
"It may be six or seven years, or twenty-two or three,
"But will you, till I call him back, take care of him for me?

 

"He'll bring his charms to gladden you, but should his stay be brief,
"You'll have his lovely memories, as solace for your grief,
"I cannot promise he will stay, since all from earth return,
"But there are lessons taught down there I want this child to learn.

"I've looked the wide world over in my search for teachers true,
"And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes I have selected you.
"Now will you give him all your love, nor think the labor vain,
"Nor hate me when I come to call to take him back again?

I fancied that I heard them say: "Dear Lord, Thy will be done!
"For all the joy Thy child shall bring, the risk of grief we'll run.
We'll shelter him with tenderness; we'll love him while we may,
And for happiness we've known forever grateful stay.

"But should the angels call for him much sooner than we'd planned,
"We'll brave the bitter grief that comes and try to understand."

 

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To Marcia & Family  / Rhetta Fisher (old nieghbor )
What Can Comfort You? What can comfort you When a loved one is lost, When the pain is so great And your world’s been tossed? What can calm you When no words know how, When the load is hard to bear And you need relief right now? What can guide you When you’re not sure which way to go, When the mountain seems too steep And you’re in the valley so low? What can uplift you When you can’t see this trial’s end? Only the arms of the Lord And the prayers of a friend. Copyright© Denise Campbell Close

A Beautiful Story About Turning Tragedy into Hope ... Christ is Our Only Hope.  / Hilda (aunt)

A very wealthy king possessed a large, beautiful ruby. He would take the stone carefully from its box every day and spend hours gazing at the beauty and depth of its color. One day as he took his precious ruby from its box, he noticed a large scratch that went completely across the face of the stone. He was terribly upset and vowed that he would give 1/2 his kingdom to the person who could return his gem to its original beauty. A jeweler tried to buff away the scratch; but it went too deep. A minister suggested dissapearing the scratch by dividing the ruby, right where the scratch was, into six equally beautiful gems.  A priest prayed but the scratch remained. But a humble sculptor asked if he could have the stone for several days in order to attempt repairing it. A whole month passed and finally the sculptor returned the precious ruby to the king. The king was overjoyed and moved to tears. His beautiful stone had been made even more beautiful. It seems that the sculptor had used the scratch as a stem for a beautiful rose which he carved into the stone. He combined the beauty of the stone with the tragedy of the scratch to make something unique and beautiful in a different way. This is how God can take the "scratches" of our lives and using them, turn us into a thing of beauty as well.


                 "OUR HOPE IS IN CHRIST ALONE"

Death brought grief for you, loneliness, emptiness, drastic change in your lives.  For Johnny and Emely, Death brought new everlasting life, complete life, fullfilled life in the presence of God.

May your scratches be the beautiful stem that will hold your lives upright in the eyes of Christ.

All my love,
Hilda

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Hugs Mom  / Shei (friend of mom )
Hi mom, thinking about the kids and just wanted to come visit again.  Hoping Jonathan will give Hols a hug for me : ) Close